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“Take the world as it is, not as it ought to be.”  ~ a German Proverb

Life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned.  I heard this joke once.  Do you want to make God laugh?  Tell Him your plans!

When I was a child I wanted to be a ballerina and a veterinarian.  As I grew older I decided I wanted to be an artist and own my own gallery and travel the world.  Instead I forgot all this and happily became a wife and mother in my twenties.  I fully bought into the American Dream scenario and felt very fulfilled having a house, husband, children and the occasional vacation.  However this fairy tale life was short lived and in my early thirties I became a young divorcee and began shuttling my kids back and forth to their two homes and faced the stress of being a single mother.

Dale Carnegie said, if life gives you lemons, make lemonade.  That’s exactly what I did.  Having free time on my hands every other weekend, I decided to enrich my soul and started taking art classes and joining a meditation group.  I began to rediscover myself independent of family life and interestingly returned to doing many of the things I enjoyed as a child like traveling, dancing and spiritual studies.

I also successfully learned how to share my children with people I didn’t know.  They would come home and talk all about their new adventures in New York City.  I had to let go of my fears that they would come into harm’s way because I wasn’t there to ensure their safety every minute of the day.  (They were under 5 when this started.)  The key phrase here is I had to let go.  I surrendered the situation to God and asked the angels to watch over them.  If I didn’t I would have suffered tremendously thinking about them running into traffic or getting kidnapped.  Next, I had to release the desire of being their only mommy–they got a step-mom shortly after the divorce.

Ultimately, I had to stop needing to be their mother all together due to differing religious and sociological viewpoints.  We have been estranged for over a year now.  Certainly not part of my original plan when I got married and decided to have children.  Fate can be cruel.  But we choose to have experiences in order to grow our soul.  Karma has to be repaid eventually.

Therefore it is essential to be adaptable.  Which is defined as the ability to adjust to new conditions and circumstances.  Change is constant in this world.  What are you holding onto?  If you’re suffering in any way, it would be due to some resistance to the inevitable flux of your surroundings.  The Universe will give us many opportunities to release our rigidity.  Like the trees in the forest, if they can’t bend when a strong wind comes, they will break.  I for one don’t want to be broken in half, so I learned to adjust.  What’s the alternative, to become jaded, bitter and cynical or lose your mind completely and go insane?  No thank you.  I’ll keep a positive attitude and hope for the best.

What happens to a person is characteristic of him.  He presents a pattern and all the pieces fit.  One by one, as his life proceeds, they fall into place according to some preordained design.  ~Carl Jung

When we can rise above our situation and look at it from a bird’s eye perspective then we are able to see the bigger picture.  Once we know that there is a divine reason for everything that happens here on earth, then we can relax and accept the outcome.

After I had my third child, I heard a voice say:  It is done.  I thought it meant my marriage which believe me was disconcerting enough at the time but I accepted it and was grateful for the heads up from my Higher Self.  It turned out to be more-my marital home and the children too.  The house went easily enough, but the kids were a harder pill to swallow.  It took me 5-10 years to accept that one fully.

More and more people are being asked by something greater than themselves to make the changes in life that are necessary for their highest good and along those lines hefty sacrifices are being made, like giving up our comfortable roles and identities that we have for so long grown accustomed to.  If we are to evolve to a higher consciousness in these remaining months then radical transformation may be necessary.

Just like if you’re about to submerge into the cold waters in Maine.  At first it feels impossible to even keep your feet in for any length of time.  Then you get really hot in the summer so you jump in, swim around and after a while you acclimatize to the coldness and really enjoy it.  If we’re open to all experiences in life then you won’t need it to be anything but what it is, and you’ll find a way to enjoy it.  It’s called going with the flow.

I guess the moral of this story is accept your destiny and find a way to keep on living a fulfilling and joyful existence.  Remain loving but detached and trust the process of your life.

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call (207) 491-2313 or email sitajidevi@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.

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Many things in life are meant to teach us patience.  Especially these days as the pace quickens and we get out of breath trying to keep up with it all.

 

A great remedy for a hectic day is to intentionally slow it down by either taking a walk in nature or closing your eyes and focusing on your breath.  It’s amazing to see how fast relaxation comes when you take a moment to recoup and it doesn’t have to take much time.  The meditation on your breath could be a few seconds when you’re in the car stopped at a traffic light, feeling the air entering your nose as you inhale and exhale.  The walk in nature could be during your lunch break in a nearby park.  Combine the two and do what the Buddhists call a walking meditation.  You’ll find that when you stop and get fully present with yourself while doing these things, (something Eckhart Tolle calls being in the “Now”) it becomes easier to be patient.

 

I would consider myself a relatively patient person when it comes to ordinary things like standing in line at a check-out stand or getting stuck in traffic.  I usually can entertain myself quite well by either singing to a song on the radio or just spend the extra time daydreaming.  That is of course, if I don’t have anywhere I have to be at that moment, I don’t like to be late for my appointments.  So if that were the case, I’d have to do some deep breathing to accept the delay.

 

Our beliefs shape our thoughts and feelings about what happens in our day.  If we could cultivate a positive attitude about whatever shows up in life, we’d be more relaxed and probably a lot happier.  Trusting in the perfection of Divine timing.

 

Impatience means we are trying to get to the next moment.  It’s when we’re not happy with our current circumstance and we’re restlessly eager for something better.  It could be personal like an illness we want to be rid of, losing weight, a better job or it could be global like world peace, the end of poverty, freedom.  Acceptance of where we’re at right now is key.  The Buddha says, all desire leads to suffering.  So if we get caught up needing things to be different, we’re causing ourselves needless pain.  Therefore, it would be wise to cultivate a detached attitude when it comes to our wants and desires.  Prayer helps.  We can pray for change, but we better be willing to wait, it seems that God’s timing is unpredictable.  It doesn’t mean we have to sit back and be idle.  We can take steps towards our future by eating better and exercising for increased health; going back to school to get that better job; or heck work for ourselves, live off the grid and grow a garden to become more self sufficient.  It’s possible to make things better, we just have to believe in ourselves.  Be the change you want to see in the world, I think Gandhi said that.

 

As for world peace…..I think the world would become more peaceful if we could learn to get along with each other.  Families can’t even get along, how can we expect the nations to do any better?

 

Relationships can be challenging.  The quality of our lives depends on how we interact with those around us.  Some people are easier to get along with than others, and we can savor those experiences.  What do we do about the unpleasant ones?  Nothing seems to hurt as much as when we’re wishing to resolve an argument with another person.  Especially if we’re close to them or work with them and have to see them everyday.  Sometimes reconciliation can take awhile and we may feel rejected and abandoned if they withdraw from us.  As Tom Petty once sang, the waiting is the hardest part.  It’s hard to keep our hearts open in those moments.  It hurts, so we guard ourselves and pretend we don’t care or convince ourselves we’d be better off without them.

 

I’m in this kind of predicament right now with my partner.  We had an argument and I tend to be quicker to forgive than he is.  He likes to withdraw and take a lot of time to process and recover.  Sometimes it can takes days.  It causes me some stress because I’m the type of person who likes to talk it out.  That’s where patience comes in.  In the past I would have tried to engage him even if it was just to get him to argue more with me.  Strangely that used to make me feel better thinking that at least we were together and talking.  I have since realized that it made things worse and I would end up saying something mean just because I was hurt and wanted to hurt him too.  This is a form of aggression.  I’m sure many of us saw this type of destructive behavior in our families when we were growing up.  It’s not a pretty sight to vent your ego on someone.  Once you say something, you can’t take it back.  On the other hand, maybe you grew up in a family that neglected your emotions by withdrawing from you or hitting you and not allowing you to voice your feelings.

 

Our parents did the best they could and we don’t have to blame them for it, but we can learn from it and stop perpetuating unhealthy forms of communication.  We have to emotionally mature if we want our relationships to improve.  It’s time to relate to one another in a whole new way.  Speak our truth in a way that promotes love.  I have always felt the importance of speaking my truth, but sometimes the truth hurts.  I suppose it all depends on delivery and timing.  Some people are masters at linguistics and know how to say things even if it’s negative, in a way that makes people feel good.  Be patient with yourself if you don’t have this gift.  Keep trying to improve the way you say things.  If somebody writes you a nasty email you can respond by mirroring what they said and validating their feelings.  Overcome the urge to escalate the conflict with a cruel reply.  Realize they may be hurting inside and give them the love they truly need by responding with kindness.  I saw a bumper-sticker on a car that said, “Kindness is my Religion.”

 

That is how we can change the world….one benevolent act at a time.  That doesn’t mean that you have to make your enemy your best friend.  It just means that no matter what people do, we can rise above it and respond from a place of generosity and altruism.

 

The electricity went out while my partner and I were in discord.  An unexpectedly early snow storm hit the Northeast this October.  It’s been over a day and I’m waiting patiently for the lights to come back on.  Luckily, we have a wood stove, so the house is warm.  However, there are many things we take for granted in our modern lives, like running water and refrigeration.  When the power goes out, all of a sudden our minor everyday annoyances seem trivial and survival takes precedence.  That might be the ultimate reason we experience natural disasters.  It wakes people up and disrupts their reality to bring greater awareness.  Who cares who won the baseball game or about winning some petty argument when you’re freezing cold?  The concerns become more practical.

 

Did you ever notice how much more caring we all become when our normal lives get interrupted by some misfortune?  We reach out to neighbors and friends.  Our compassion and humanity returns because we’re forced to ban together.  Out of necessity we learn to get along.  My relationship problem resolved quicker because of the storm.  We had many chores which required us to work together.  Our hearts softened as we worked side-by-side and showed concern for each other.

 

Life has a funny way of working itself out.  It seems that the Universe was just waiting for us to surrender to love.  Right when I overcame my pride and asked him for a hug — mid-embrace — the electricity came back on!  Some may think it was just a coincidence, but was it?  Never underestimate the power of love.  Power outages are like spiritual tests, and once we learn the lesson, the problem goes away.

 

All life lessons come to teach us something and it’s best to be patient with the results.

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Forgiveness & Rememberance

Forgiveness & Rememberance (Photo credit: alex drennan)

The only way to get free of the past is by letting it go.  Completely!  Forgiveness can change your life.

 

How many of us walk around each day with a knitted brow, thinking how others have done us wrong?  Haunted by the past.  Angry or upset.  Unable to enjoy our life fully because we can’t let go of some injustice that was done to us.  Oh sure we have other more pleasant moments too, but underneath still resentful or worse vengeful towards someone who hurt us when we were younger or just the other day.  I heard a Unity Minister once say, true forgiveness is never telling your story again.  Stop complaining and move on.  A real example of forgive and forget, as they say.  A radical concept when taken seriously.  When you allow yourself to forget your “sad story” and stop recounting it to anyone who will listen, it automatically is forgiven because you can’t remember it anymore.  It’s over.  Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying that you condone what happened to you.  You just choose to forget about it and go on with your life.

 

Sure easy to say, but harder to do.  This may be one of the hardest lessons to learn, but once you achieve success with forgiveness, then you will be truly free to enjoy your life.  I say this from experience.  The benefits of forgiveness are huge, good for the body as well as the Soul.  There have been studies done to show the negative effects the stress of prolonged unforgiveness has on the body.  Two in particular are increased risk of heart disease and mental illness.  Those who forgive were found to generally have lower blood pressure, less anxiety and depressive symptoms and better overall health as they got older.

 

A lot of our grievances are directed at others, but, the hardest one to forgive ultimately usually is our self.  We don’t even realize how angry we actually are at ourselves.  It could be for numerous reasons, like not becoming the person we were meant to be or something we said or did to another that we feel badly about.

 

I remember when I first got exposed to the idea that forgiveness has the potential of setting a person free.  It was a number of years ago and I was in a very bad place emotionally, remembering unpleasant details about my childhood and I was listening to a tape by Caroline Myss called, “Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can” and she said that the only way to get free of the past is to forgive the person who hurt you.  I started to cry uncontrollably because at that moment I thought that I would never be able to forgive this person.  I thought I’d be doomed to this depression I was in for the rest of my life.  As it turned out though, many months later I did end up forgiving this person and I felt this amazing relief and it was like a rebirth to finally be free of my past.  I felt happier and my body got healthier as a result.  My depression went away.  I don’t know how that person is dealing with his thoughts about it, I don’t know if he’s forgiven himself, but it’s not necessary to even think about that because the true change and healing is for yourself.  We cannot change another, only ourselves.  If we don’t forgive, we’re really only hurting ourselves.  That other person probably isn’t even thinking about it anymore.

 

Even when you think you have done all the forgiving you need to do, something will turn up that needs to be addressed.  This happened to me just recently, a new piece of information came flooding back to me about my childhood and I saw more people I needed to forgive.  Our mind has a way of remembering things when we’re ready.  It’s like a spiral climbing up to the heavens, as we go higher and higher in our purification and healing process, through modalities such as meditation and all forms of therapeutic healing, our degree of awareness becomes greater.  However, as we forgive each offense, it becomes easier and easier to do.

 

The clearer we get emotionally, the more we can see and sometimes what we see is quite horrendous, but it’s necessary to look at it all and process our feelings and thoughts and realize that it’s not even real now, it’s just an unfortunate memory from the past to be released back into the nothingness that it came from.  Or at least that’s how I like to look at it.  Plus, the person who hurt you was hurting too and chose to take it out on you for one reason or another.

 

A Course In Miracles says that Only Love is Real, Everything Else is Just a Call for Love.

 

Try to look at negative life experiences as karmic lessons in this place I like to call Earth School, we all have light and dark within us, it’s part of living in duality.  We’ve had numerous lifetimes sometimes heroic, sometimes destructive, sometimes somewhere in between.  That is all part of the reincarnational journey, if you’re a Christian you can see it as the Born Again aspect of this life, to descend into the darkness of this world and find our way back to the Light, back to God.  Integrating these experiences into a balanced state of oneness is a form of spiritual alchemy and from it comes great understanding and compassion.  So forgive your enemies.  After all, you’ve probably been their enemy in a past life or even in this life you’ve most likely done something to hurt them at one time or another.  Forgiveness sets us all free.

 

You don’t have to implement my philosophy regarding the reasons to forgive.  I like to use many schools of thought and some of it may be hard to digest.  Take what works and leave the rest.  It doesn’t matter how you get to this point of understanding, it’s just important to get there.  Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself.  Making you a happier and healthier person and then the whole world gets to benefit because positive energy is life enhancing and makes the world a better place.

 

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Email or call sitajidevi@yahoo.com (207) 491-2313 to schedule appointments.

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