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Forgiveness & Rememberance

Forgiveness & Rememberance (Photo credit: alex drennan)

The only way to get free of the past is by letting it go.  Completely!  Forgiveness can change your life.

 

How many of us walk around each day with a knitted brow, thinking how others have done us wrong?  Haunted by the past.  Angry or upset.  Unable to enjoy our life fully because we can’t let go of some injustice that was done to us.  Oh sure we have other more pleasant moments too, but underneath still resentful or worse vengeful towards someone who hurt us when we were younger or just the other day.  I heard a Unity Minister once say, true forgiveness is never telling your story again.  Stop complaining and move on.  A real example of forgive and forget, as they say.  A radical concept when taken seriously.  When you allow yourself to forget your “sad story” and stop recounting it to anyone who will listen, it automatically is forgiven because you can’t remember it anymore.  It’s over.  Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying that you condone what happened to you.  You just choose to forget about it and go on with your life.

 

Sure easy to say, but harder to do.  This may be one of the hardest lessons to learn, but once you achieve success with forgiveness, then you will be truly free to enjoy your life.  I say this from experience.  The benefits of forgiveness are huge, good for the body as well as the Soul.  There have been studies done to show the negative effects the stress of prolonged unforgiveness has on the body.  Two in particular are increased risk of heart disease and mental illness.  Those who forgive were found to generally have lower blood pressure, less anxiety and depressive symptoms and better overall health as they got older.

 

A lot of our grievances are directed at others, but, the hardest one to forgive ultimately usually is our self.  We don’t even realize how angry we actually are at ourselves.  It could be for numerous reasons, like not becoming the person we were meant to be or something we said or did to another that we feel badly about.

 

I remember when I first got exposed to the idea that forgiveness has the potential of setting a person free.  It was a number of years ago and I was in a very bad place emotionally, remembering unpleasant details about my childhood and I was listening to a tape by Caroline Myss called, “Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can” and she said that the only way to get free of the past is to forgive the person who hurt you.  I started to cry uncontrollably because at that moment I thought that I would never be able to forgive this person.  I thought I’d be doomed to this depression I was in for the rest of my life.  As it turned out though, many months later I did end up forgiving this person and I felt this amazing relief and it was like a rebirth to finally be free of my past.  I felt happier and my body got healthier as a result.  My depression went away.  I don’t know how that person is dealing with his thoughts about it, I don’t know if he’s forgiven himself, but it’s not necessary to even think about that because the true change and healing is for yourself.  We cannot change another, only ourselves.  If we don’t forgive, we’re really only hurting ourselves.  That other person probably isn’t even thinking about it anymore.

 

Even when you think you have done all the forgiving you need to do, something will turn up that needs to be addressed.  This happened to me just recently, a new piece of information came flooding back to me about my childhood and I saw more people I needed to forgive.  Our mind has a way of remembering things when we’re ready.  It’s like a spiral climbing up to the heavens, as we go higher and higher in our purification and healing process, through modalities such as meditation and all forms of therapeutic healing, our degree of awareness becomes greater.  However, as we forgive each offense, it becomes easier and easier to do.

 

The clearer we get emotionally, the more we can see and sometimes what we see is quite horrendous, but it’s necessary to look at it all and process our feelings and thoughts and realize that it’s not even real now, it’s just an unfortunate memory from the past to be released back into the nothingness that it came from.  Or at least that’s how I like to look at it.  Plus, the person who hurt you was hurting too and chose to take it out on you for one reason or another.

 

A Course In Miracles says that Only Love is Real, Everything Else is Just a Call for Love.

 

Try to look at negative life experiences as karmic lessons in this place I like to call Earth School, we all have light and dark within us, it’s part of living in duality.  We’ve had numerous lifetimes sometimes heroic, sometimes destructive, sometimes somewhere in between.  That is all part of the reincarnational journey, if you’re a Christian you can see it as the Born Again aspect of this life, to descend into the darkness of this world and find our way back to the Light, back to God.  Integrating these experiences into a balanced state of oneness is a form of spiritual alchemy and from it comes great understanding and compassion.  So forgive your enemies.  After all, you’ve probably been their enemy in a past life or even in this life you’ve most likely done something to hurt them at one time or another.  Forgiveness sets us all free.

 

You don’t have to implement my philosophy regarding the reasons to forgive.  I like to use many schools of thought and some of it may be hard to digest.  Take what works and leave the rest.  It doesn’t matter how you get to this point of understanding, it’s just important to get there.  Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself.  Making you a happier and healthier person and then the whole world gets to benefit because positive energy is life enhancing and makes the world a better place.

 

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Email or call sitajidevi@yahoo.com (207) 491-2313 to schedule appointments.

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Gratitude

Dr. Wayne Dyer in the movie “The Shift,” starts his day by saying. “Thank you, thank you, thank you.”  The idea of appreciating life and starting our day with gratitude for simply being alive.  What a great concept!  It sure beats the way I was raised, my parents had this anxious quality about them and a feeling of dread permeated the house in the mornings.  There’s a lot of good to be said for living a responsible life, but when duty turns into drudgery, that’s when you either have to reinvent your life or improve your attitude.  I wish my parents knew this.  However, Nietzsche said, “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

Gratitude’s been a hard pill for me to swallow based on some of my bizarre and frightening life experiences since childhood.  It’s been like a Sci-Fi Thriller and involves abduction, aliens and DNA harvesting.  The catch is that it doesn’t happen in my normal everyday life, but in the middle of the night when I’m in bed asleep, so it feels like a nightmare instead of reality.  Thankfully, they screen my mind (erase memory) so I don’t remember too much of the scary details.  Thank goodness it doesn’t happen every night!  As you can imagine there have been some side effects, one being PTS (Post Traumatic Stress) and panic attacks which have lessened with maturity and learning to relax and trust that there is a bigger picture and if this is karma, I’m grateful to be clearing it.  Plus, these terrifying experiences have made me stronger, less fearful as I face each one, given me wisdom, compassion and understanding which enables me to help others facing similar circumstances — life can be stranger than fiction.  Don’t worry it’s not contagious (as far as I know), I was born into it.  I deal with it but it’s hard to be thankful for it while it’s happening.  That’s for sure.

Another gratitude obstacle to overcome would be that I was born in the month of January which makes me the Earth sign, Capricorn, as an astrologer I know that I’m here to learn how to be grateful.  All the earth signs are.  Taurus (May birthdays) and Virgo (September) also are learning the same lesson.  To be thankful even amidst chaos and any unfortunate happenings as well as to appreciate the good stuff more.  One way to develop this virtue can be as simple as writing a daily gratitude journal.  I remember Oprah having a show about gratitude back in the 90’s and suggested keeping a gratitude journal.  I did this and there were some days I couldn’t complete the daily requirements of listing ten things I was thankful for.  It was during a time of extreme challenges and struggles after a divorce and trying to raise three young children on my own.  (I’m not complaining I know we all face upsets in life, I’m just sharing mine in hopes to help and inspire others.  Humans have amazing ability to overcome vast adversity, and that’s what I strive for everyday of my life.)  Finding atleast 1 thing is a good way to start, it could be the sunshine or a hot shower, then expand to a delicious meal and the company of good friends, a warm embrace.  Once you start looking at life this way it becomes easy to find a multitude of things to be happy about throughout your day.  It even becomes possible to see the gift in everything and everyone.  Some have even said they’re thankful for cancer or some major illness because of how it changed them for the better.

For each new morning with its light,For rest and shelter of the night,For health and food, for love and friends,For everything Thy goodness sends.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Life is meant to be cherished.  What stops us from seeing the value in our everyday lives?  We were conditioned and programmed to worry and fret about the future.  Bombarded by commercials trying to convince you that you will get sick, in order to sell more prescription drugs and insurance companies trying to sell you protection from life’s mishaps.  It’s all fear based and I decided to turn away from this kind of lifestyle.  I have been living my life radically different for the past 5 years and it makes some people very nervous, like my conservative father, that I don’t have medical insurance or a retirement account anymore.  I’ve decided that it’s unnecessary to focus my attention on creating a false sense of security.  It’s better to trust that life will support me as I live from my heart.  This has given me a new found freedom.  An excitement about what’s possible.  I’ve broken out of the proverbial box and I’m exploring my options.  So far I’m doing just fine, I eat healthy organic food, take herbs and homeopathy for whatever ailes me therefore I don’t need to go to doctor’s.  I recently found out that a doctor discovered that water cures all sickness, he said people aren’t sick, they’re just thirsty…..dehydration.  Now that is cheap medicine.  Basically drink about 8-10 glasses of pure water per day and you’ll be healthy.  As far as my finances, I own my house and vehicle and have a small nest egg.  I decided right before the 2008 market crash that it was time to scale down, I sold my big house and got rid of all my debt.  It really is possible to make these kinds of changes, get rid of mortgages and live a simple, modest life with contentment.  I am proof of that.

It’s hard to feel thankful when you are stuck in a mindset that says I don’t have enough, or there’s not enough to go around.  This mentality is bound to get you caught up in fear and greed.  I heard a wise teacher once say that love and fear cannot be felt at the same time.  I think the same goes for gratitude and lack.  When we compare our situation to someone like a Donald Trump or some other super rich person, it’s hard to feel good about your own life.  So don’t compare!  After all, they may not even be happy.  I used to have a lot of money and it can be all consuming, buying unnecessary things and then taking care of them.  My mother used to say, a smaller house means less to clean and I agree. Be thankful for whatever you have because if you’re reading this article you must have something.  Eyes to see, a healthy brain and intellect to understand the words, a moment to kick back and read the paper, ect.  Focus on the basics, that’s what I do.

The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings.  ~Eric Hoffer

One way to show gratitude is to Mother Earth, we are physically made up of all her elements.  We probably rarely if ever attribute our life to her.  In reality we are breathing her air, drinking her water and eating her food — the planet sustains our bodies along with the Sun.  A big thank you is in order and we can extend it by saying a prayer of thanks before a meal as well as other times in our day.  I like to take a walk when the sun is setting and say goodnight and thanks to Father Sun.  We can also be thankful to our parents for having us and for all the people who have helped us in our life.  There really is so much to be thankful for.  We can be grateful the stress of the holidays is over and for the love shared with others.  Make a New Year’s resolution to be more grateful.

Oftentimes, I like to point out the health benefits of the qualities I speak about in my Life Lesson articles.  Gratitude has been found to make you a happier person.  Dr. Emmons who wrote the book, “Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier” found that practicing gratitude can increase happiness levels by around 25%.  His research based on ten years of studies, shows that those who practice gratitude are more creative, more resilient, have a stronger immune system, and better social relationships than those who don’t practice gratitude.  He’s not saying that their lives are easier, just their attitude is better.  I really value health and I find this information to be a great motivator for me.

 

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call or email (207) 491-2313 sitajidevi@yahoo.com  to schedule an appointment.

Humor

Have you ever started to giggle and someone around you would laugh as well, not even knowing what was funny?  Laughter is contagious.  If you disagree, just try to keep a straight face while other people are hysterically laughing around you.  If you don’t end up laughing or at least smiling, you may be taking life a little too seriously.

 If you find it hard to laugh, it could be for many reasons.  You may feel embarrassed and self conscious about how you would look or sound if you burst out laughing.  I remember my first reaction when I was younger and saw my in-laws laughing at a funny movie we were watching — they were throwing their heads back and convulsing all over the place, cackling and snorting — I thought they looked very odd.  I hadn’t experienced that kind of behavior before.  My parents acted more conservative and refined.  Another explanation could be because of a punishment you received as a child.  I remember my father saying, wipe that smile off your face or I’ll do it for you.  A threat he made due to my finding humor in something he said while he was reprimanding me.  A further possibility could be that you suffer from inappropriate giggles, like when you’re in a somber situation, like a funeral, and you find something funny about it.  I remember I had this friend in high school who used to make me laugh at the most ill-advised times.  Usually when the principal was speaking in school or some other authority figure was trying to assert control.  We would be losing our composure due to the other’s facial expressions.  I think we lost recess priviledges a lot.  So it’s understandable if laughter doesn’t come easily for some. If however, you’re tired of being subdued and somber and you’d like to revive your funny bone, there are many ways to do this.  I heard a Unity Minister say, “Fake it ‘til you make it,” which can mean for these purposes that if you don’t have a sense of humor then pretend you do.  Teach yourself how to laugh.  There’s a new form of yoga that came over from India where all you do for 30 minutes is laugh.  It’s called Laughter Yoga, I have the dvd which consists of many exercises comprised of hand gestures and sounds that help you to laugh.  You may feel silly doing it, but the rewards are numerous, and you can do it in the privacy of your own home.  I believe some yoga studios in Portland have these types of classes, if you’d prefer to laugh with a group.  You could also go to see more movies that are comedies.  Whenever I’m feeling stressed out or sad I will go see a funny movie to raise my spirits and feel better.  It’s amazing how fast my attitude will improve when I let go of my problem and immerse myself in a comedy.  Other helpful suggestions could be to surround yourself with funny people, read the Sunday comics and frequent comedy clubs.  Cats and dogs can be very entertaining, especially when they’re little, it can be very funny to watch a kitten’s curious antics.  If you have access to a computer, there’s also some hilarious youtube videos.  One that we really enjoy is called “justforlaughstv”, where they do harmless gags and pranks.

Humor can transform any negative state of mind quickly by giving a more relaxed and balanced perspective from a place of levity.  Whenever I wanted to get my child out of a bad mood, I would tickle him.  Children love to be tickled.  He’d start laughing and forget all about why he was angry.  Worked every time.  Try it with a friend and see.  Usually adults can appreciate a good joke more than an actual tickle but, it could be fun trying.

It’s important to become more whimsical and playful — it’s good for the Soul.  Christ said become like little children to return to the kingdom of heaven.  I think that means bring back our sense of innocence.  Don’t take life so seriously.  Have more fun.  I read somewhere that children laugh on average about 300 times a day and adults only 5 times a day — no wonder that children have so much energy and can play and run around for hours.

Laughter is also good for your health.  Studies have shown that laughter strengthens your immune system, diminishes pain, and protects you from the damaging effects of stress.  A good, hearty laugh can relieve physical tension by relaxing your muscles for up to 45 minutes.  It also triggers the release of endorphins which are the “feel-good” chemicals in the body and who wouldn’t want more of that?  A man named Norman Cousins believed he healed himself of terminal cancer with laughter.  He watched slapstick films like Laurel & Hardy and laughed himself well.  Laughter really is the best medicine.  I was driving home the other day and getting fatigued after about 3 hours and my stomach was hurting from something I ate.  I decided to put my theories to the test and it worked.  I began to make myself laugh, thinking about funny things and within a few minutes I was feeling better.  I had more energy and my pain went away.

Don’t just take my word for it, see for yourself how much better you feel when you laugh.  It may even surprise you that as you start to see life through a more lighthearted approach, the people around you will too.  Before you know it, all your relationships will improve and life will become a little sweeter.  It’s worth a try!

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call (207) 491-2313 or email sitajidevi@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.

7 Wonders of the World by a Child.

Happiness

A few words to describe happiness would be contentment, satisfaction, and enjoyment.  It has been recognized as a virtuous goal in our Declaration of Independence and considered an unalienable right for all citizens  — “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness”.  However, I disagree with the idea of chasing after it.

Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder. ~Thoreau

I believe that you can be happy no matter what your circumstances are in life, whether you’re rich or poor.  Some may still think that buying stuff can make you happy, but it is short lived and usually ends up giving the opposite effect because it’s like any other addictive behavior, like alcohol where you end up needing more and more to feel good.  A recipe for disasterous debt if you’re a shopaholic.  Ultimately, money can’t buy true happiness, in fact research has shown that many of the happiest people live in third world countries like Bali and are lucky if they have the basic necessities to stay alive, yet they are quite content and often smiling.

Happiness is a choice you make in any given moment.  What keeps us from dancing in the streets and singing in the rain?  A hint of silliness is good for the soul and makes you smile from ear to ear.  I love to croon and whirl about , but I haven’t seen many others display such delight on a day to day basis.  Sometimes my partner joins in but only if I drag him.  He’s a Virgo and a Minister’s son as well as a lifelong Mainer and can be quite reticent.  I’m from New Jersey so I guess I don’t have that issue.  At the risk of over generalizing, a jersey girl’s attitude is quite different from a typical New Englander, we are less inhibited and much more demonstrative.  Of course that doesn’t mean we don’t have our fair share of neuroses, I would say anger is our greatest block to happiness.  Many people from New York and New Jersey definitely have that challenge.  It’s like we were born with a chip on our shoulder and we dare everyone we meet to knock it off.  Thankfully I’m a recovering Jersey-ite and I’ve learned to temper my bad temper.

The majority of people seem to have some degree of blockage towards experiencing regular states of happiness.  How do I know that?  Look around you, how many shiny, happy people do you see?  (I don’t mean alcohol induced either.)  I hope for your sake I’m wrong and that you know many joyful individuals.  Fire signs (Leo, Sagitarrius and Aries) tend to be more enthusiastic and exuberant, it is their journey to learn how to enjoy life and overall they do a pretty good job at it.  However the water signs (Cancer, Pisces and Scorpio) need to work at it, they can get quite depressed if they let their emotions rule them.  Here’s a telling quote by Oscar Wilde, “Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go”.  We all can benefit from that wisdom.  I’d prefer to elicit the former response.  My friend had a great plaque over the sink in his kitchen that said “The key to a happy marriage is a bad memory”.  I thought that was very funny.  While Lord Tennyson said, “The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions”.  Self control, imagine how great life would become if we stopped taking our bad moods out on each other.

Why does it feel so hard to be happy these days?  I don’t want to point fingers but I will anyway, could it be that we’ve been conditioned to become lifeless and staid, by being beaten down with depressing news programs on the television and programmed through advertisements to be dissatisfied with ourselves?  It’s like life has dulled in some way and we are the by product — welcome to zombie land.  Also, this may be my individual gripe, but who decided that women should be a size 0?  The fashion industry?  They probably just want to spend less money on fabric (smirk).  What a racket they have going with pills, diet foods and plastic surgery.  The weightloss industry is Big Business.  However, Marilyn Monroe was considered the most beautiful woman on the planet and I think she was a size 12.  So I’m done feeling bad about being a size 10, my new mantra is “Thank you, my beautiful, healthy and strong body, I love you!”

So the question becomes how can we increase our happiness?  We can start simply by returning to our original way of being, when we were innocent little children, before we began to identify with roles and labels.  Begin to like yourself exactly as you are and remove all the external pressures to be different.  I was just saying last night that I don’t think I’m ever going to change the awkwardness I feel going to social gatherings, I’ve tried to overcome it, but it stays with me year after year.  However, when I gave myself permission to be me, accepted my uncomfortable nervousness, I ended up feeling better and had a really good time that night.  Acceptance is key.  “Know Thyself.”  I have Aquarius Rising and Aquarius people tend to suffer from nervousness.  Air signs (Gemini, Libra and Aquarius) can wear themselves out with overthinking and need time alone to recuperate.

Our level of happiness depends on our ability to think positively.  Don’t be a prisoner of your own mind.  We must learn to live more from our heart than our head; make our mind serve us with loving intentions.  Find that place within ourselves that doesn’t judge or criticize and revel in that feeling of bliss which can be found when we’re not mentally beating ourselves up.  Look in the mirror and like who we see.  It’s also important to have things to look forward to in your life, don’t be stagnant, allow yourself to hope and dream.  There have been studies done connecting happiness with an extended life span. I read somewhere that the body starts to break down and die if we stop feeling like life is worth living — by dimming our Light and draining our lifeforce energy.  Therefore, it is vital to embrace life for better health and longevity — and happiness is a good way to start.  Like the renowned Bobby McFerrin ditty from the 80’s, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”, it’s great advice and a good song too.

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call or email (207) 491-2313 sitajidevi@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.

Perseverance

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.

(English Proverb)

I don’t give up easily.  I’m a Capricorn which is known as the mountain goat who is constantly climbing to get to the top, and if I fall down, I just pick myself up and begin my ascent once more.  Instead of dusting myself off, I take a nice, long hot bath.  All the cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn) are relentless achievers and will stop at nothing to realize their goals.  Personally I think this is a trait we can use more of in this country.  People who will persist for a worthy goal.  Don’t just accept the status quo, especially if it goes against your morals, principals and well being.

I read the other day that the people of Blue Hill, Maine succeeded in passing a law that allows them to retain their rights for the sale of local agriculture, like raw milk and organic eggs.  It’s called the food freedom ordinance declaring sovereignty from government intrusion.  Good for them!  Hopefully, Farmington and the surrounding areas will be next.  I don’t want GMO’s in my food.

The Jehovah Witnesses know the meaning of struggling on with determination.  I don’t agree with their mission but I admire their tenacity.  We need more people willing to go door to door for progress and change.  We just watched the movie Erin Brockovich last night where she went to every sick person’s house in a California town to get them to sign the petition in a landmark case against PG&E, something like 600 people and they were rewarded over $300 million due to toxic waste poisoning.  PG&E stopped using that harmful chemical as well.  Her persistence certainly paid off!  Now she’s investigating the mysterious illnesses in upstate New York, I’m sure she’ll get to the bottom of it.

I’m more of the reclusive type, so I choose to facilitate changes through my writing, but I’m sure there are many willing to speak up for their rights in other productive ways like handing out flyers at the supermarket or ringing people’s doorbells and writing letters to Congress.  Maybe they just need encouragement to go out and make their voices heard.  After all, we are the home of the brave and land of the free — well at least that’s what our founding fathers intended from the get go.  Maybe we need to re-read our Constitution and Bill of Rights.  It’s time to get serious about what we want.  Do we want to continue on the course we’re on with TSA invading our privacy at the airports and governments deciding what’s best for us or do we want to have personal freedom to live our lives as we see fit?  I like the New Hampshire license plates that say, Live Free or Die.  Braveheart is one of my favorite movies.  William Wallace’s last cry for FREEDOM really inspired me.

This may conjure up some fear because we’ve been conditioned in our society these days to panic and worry under even normal circumstances with the threat of terrorist attacks, biological weapons and nuclear meltdowns.  Our quality of life has been compromised by endless wars, corporate greed and things like chemtrails.  Our rights are dwindling down with the most recent passing of a law that states we don’t even have a right for a trial by jury, it’s called the indefinite detention bill.

If we want to have our freedom back we need to persevere to remove all unnecessary fears from our life, like the fear of authority.  F.E.A.R. — stands for false evidence appearing real.  Fear is crippling.  A famous quote made by FDR was The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.    I heard it be said that to make it beyond 2012 we will need to overcome every fearful thought.  That the energies will shift after December 21, 2012 to zero point and it will be very easy to create whatever you think about.  No lag time.  Time and space will alter to the point of convergence and our thoughts will formulate instantaneously.  I don’t know about you, but I shudder to imagine what that will look like for those who think about dark things like zombies and evil aliens.  In these remaining months it is essential to take an inventory of our thoughts and emotions to see what needs to be weeded out of our consciousness.

Our subconscious mind reveals itself when we sleep through our dreams.  Are you having nightmares?  What makes you really scared, it’s time to overcome your fears.  If the dark is unbearable for you, like me — we need to go to bed with all the lights off and face the boogeyman.  If the thought of poverty puts you in a state of panic, you have to give more money away.  If you fear death, then you have to surround yourself with dying people — volunteer at a hospice and help people transition to the other side.  I’ve heard it can be a mystical experience to see the soul leave the body.

No matter what fear or desire you wish to work on it is essential to be optimistic to succeed.  Success usually doesn’t come without a lot of failed attempts.  Where would we be if Thomas Edison gave up?  We’d still be lighting candles and lanterns.  It took him a very long time to invent the light bulb.  Determination is a critical factor.

Infinite striving to be the best is man’s duty; it is its own reward. Everything else is in God’s hands. ~Mahatma Gandhi

There are so many things we can improve upon:  better health, relationships, career, anything that we believe is crucial to the quality of our life.  Listen to your heart when it comes to what you want to create in your life now.  If you hate your job, find a way to change it.  Learn a new skill, take a class to better yourself.  Do something you love.  If your health is poor, start the healing process.  When we’re sick we’ll do almost anything to get well again — pain is a great motivator.  Don’t be satisfied with taking a pill to mask the symptoms temporarily.  Research natural remedies online.  Traditional medicine may actually be causing more sickness than wellness.  Studies have shown that prescription drugs are one of the #1 killers, after heart disease and cancer.  Good quality food is the best medicine.  We are what we eat.  Instead of eating out all of the time and frequenting fast food establishments, go food shopping, buy organic fruits and vegetables — cook nutritious meals at home.  It’s economical and healthier.  The internet is filled with healthy recipes.

Start exercising, I know it’s cold out and not the best conditions right now for walking outdoors, but UMF has an excellent recreational facility with an indoor track, pool, exercise equipment and many classes to get your body in shape.  Exercise is good for the soul as well as the body.  If you don’t have any spare money to join a gym, just do more exercise at home, push ups and sit ups are probably the best tried-and-true work out you can do for your body.  You can get exercise dvd’s and follow along at home.  It’s important to learn proper technique though so you don’t hurt yourself and always warm up with stretching.  Set aside an hour in your day to take care of your body.  You’ll be grateful you did, when your health improves and you have more energy.

How about your house, is it filled with clutter?  Don’t wait until springtime, according to feng shui experts, there are many benefits from clearing your space.  De-clutter now.  Go through all your stuff.  My motto is if I haven’t used it in a few years, it goes to charity.  If you need the money, sell it on craigslist.  Imagine how much more space you’d have if you got rid of the clutter.  I use a three bin system:  keep, donate and trash.

Finally, we can persevere for love.   If you are in a relationship, allow it to be used for self development as well as enjoying the romance and companionship.  Conflict can teach us a lot about ourselves.  Don’t just take the easy way out by leaving.  However, domestic violence should not be tolerated.  So, unless your safety is at risk, I think it’s best to stick it out.  I’m not saying to force someone to stay with you, that would be like Kathy Bates in Misery.  Just do your part and don’t quit.  Communication is key.  What I have learned is that men want to feel respected and women want to feel cherished.  It’s really not that hard to do once we know that secret……why not have a love that lasts forever?

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call (207) 491-2313 or email sitajidevi@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.