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I’ve heard a few people refer to the acronym K.I.S.S. – Keep It Simple (they say) Stupid, (but I prefer to say) Sweetheart.  I also like the adage “Less is more”.   Life is simple, our minds make it complicated!  It seems that our society is addicted to drama and perpetuates it with intricate ideas and practices.

Everyday life can be so complex.  Technology was supposed to make our life easier and it seems like just the opposite.  Sure I like having modern appliances but keeping up with the latest gadgets and how to use them can be exasperating.  I enjoy the internet for a variety of reasons but now I have to remember all these passwords and usernames to each of my online activities like Facebook, Craigslist, PayPal, online shopping sites, my Blog and more.  Meanwhile, I no longer use my memory for basic things like phone numbers or addresses.  I just press the name on my contact list to make my calls.  So if I were to lose my phone I wouldn’t be able to call anyone.  The same with addresses, now emailing has taken away that as well, so I wouldn’t know how to reach people in an emergency without these technologies.  These handy devices are causing our memory to atrophy.  GPS in the cars can be very helpful, but not if we become so dependent on them that we forget to rely on basic compass direction.  If the GPS told us to turn right and drive off a cliff, would we listen?  I know it’s taken me miles out of my way to many abandoned dirt roads.  We must retain our common sense in these matters.

Supermarkets are making it almost impossible for us to keep our sanity and feed our families healthy meals. One of the most complicated things I have to do these days is to go food shopping.  Boxes and boxes of stuff!  I sometimes get so stressed out imagining myself walking in and shopping that I have to meditate to calm myself down before such a venture.  Aisle after aisle of colorful packaging creating stress and confusion due to a plethora of choices.  If you’re health conscious like me you spend a lot of time scrutinizing the ingredient list making sure it doesn’t contain an assortment of harmful chemicals like High Fructose Corn Syrup, Aspartame, Partially Hydrogenated Oils, Soy Lecithin and FrankenWheat.  Unfortunately it’s come to the point that companies don’t even have to list if they are using GMO’s, so we don’t even know if it’s bad or not.  I heard that some big superstore in the area is now selling GMO corn without disclosure.  Best advice I heard from a naturopathic doctor was to only eat whole foods and avoid anything that comes in a box.  I would add to that by saying grow a garden, then you’ll know exactly what you’re eating.

“Manifest plainness,

Embrace simplicity,

Reduce selfishness,

Have few desires.”

Lao Tzu

 

Life doesn’t have to be complicated and hard, we can choose the simple way to do things.  It would help if we could all learn how to get along with each other.  We need each other, things can get done a lot quicker and easier if more people worked together.

 

I propose that we let go of separatist thinking and unite in our communities and with all of humanity.  We have been taught to hate from a very young age–being told that certain nations and religions are our enemy.  Jesus came to point the way to righteous living by emphasizing two commandments that I think are simple and paramount–love God with all your heart and love your neighbor.  What the powers that be (the 1% Elite who currently run this world) don’t want you to know is that we are connected and what you do to others, you do to yourself.  They teach us to be divided based on men and women, gay or straight, christian or jew or muslim, wealthy or poor, republican or democrat.  They know the principle of divide and conquer.  If they can keep us all at odds with each other, they will maintain their power and control over us.  So the simple solution is to love and accept everyone on this planet.  Become a world wide community, decide to help each other in any way we can.  Together we are so much stronger than apart.

 

It’s been said that in the end times, deception would be rampant.  We must be vigilant to discern the truth.  I always know when information is right for me, if it gets all complicated and confusing I lose interest and reject it.  Yet if it’s basic and simple and plainly states the message then I relax and take it in.  That’s one way I discern on my spiritual path as well as my regular life.  Albert Einstein said, If you can’t explain it simply, then you don’t understand it well enough.  I’d go even further to state that institutions like our Judicial System and the IRS go out of their way to make the information complicated– that way you are unable to defend yourself without having to hire lawyers and accountants to decipher all the rhetoric.  Many people don’t have the time, energy or money to play that game.  Thereby you lose your basic understanding of the law, become a slave to the system and possibly lose your unalienable rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.  Maybe it’s time to drop out of this insane society and adopt a more naturalist lifestyle like the Amish.

 

The Amish have been living simply for decades, they won’t have any problem if our electricity goes out and being able to survive if the food stores stop stocking food.  How many of us are ready to sustain ourselves on our land or community.  It’s imperative that people live in harmony and learn to share for the coming times.  Be prepared for possible inconveniences due to extreme weather, economic collapse or outbreak of war and revolution.

 

I think that’s why I love living in Maine so much.  It’s so simple here.  People are not pretentious, there’s no social climbing and pretending.  The people of Maine are real and down to earth.  Willing to lend a helping hand when necessary.  Plus, Farmington and the surrounding area is filled with farmers so our food is wholesome and good.  We get duck eggs from someone in New Sharon and our fruits and veggies from the Farmer’s Market.

 

The simple life is what I choose, like that old Green Acres television theme song,

Green acres is the place for me. 

Farm livin’ is the life for me. 

Land spreadin’ out so far and wide 

Keep Manhattan, just give me that countryside. 

 

 

 

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call (207) 491-2313 or email sitajidevi@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.

 

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The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.  This was a  memorable line in the movie, Moulin Rouge.

I am sitting at this beautiful park in the middle of a National Forrest in Ocala, Florida.  The weather is warm and sunny.  My partner and I just enjoyed a swim in a hot spring near our campsite.  It’s been a relaxing and sensuous vacation–taking in the natural splendor of the green trees swaying in the gentle breeze and the many birds harmoniously chirping all around us–the perfect backdrop for love and romance.  All couples need time alone to cultivate intimacy and to share affection.  The longer you’ve been together the greater the necessity, because familiarity tends to breed contempt or at the very least inertia.

Romantic gestures are easy when you just start a new relationship.  When the thrill of discovering the intricacies of another person becomes your greatest concern and delight.  It’s called the honeymoon effect.  Your mind is filled with wonder and happiness fills your heart.  You feel energetic and think anything is possible.  The trick is to keep this feeling alive all the time.  We can love all aspects of our life, not just the pursuit of a new partner.

Dr. Bruce Lipton said that when he muscle tested people on the question, Do you love yourself, a surprising 80% tested negatively.  If we were brought up in a critical environment chances are good that we don’t love our self.  We were programmed from our family, church and schools to think we are unworthy of love due to some flaw or weakness.  We have to change our negative beliefs about ourselves and then we will be able to create more loving relationships.  Quiet the mind and live in our hearts.  The heart doesn’t judge and criticize, it just loves.

How many of us can look in the mirror each day and say “I love you”?  I don’t have an easy time at it.  Yet, all we really want in life is to be loved.  How do we expect to attract someone to love us, if we can’t give that love to ourself first?  If that’s the case for you, take a hand mirror and stare into your eyes for 20 minutes a day, until you get to the point that you can say those three words and truly mean it.  Compassion will fill your eyes when you finally get how truly lovable you are.  We are born in the image of God, what’s not to love?  We are magnificent beings and deserving of all the goodness life has to offer.

I was in a bathroom stall here at the campsite and I saw a graffiti drawing of a heart with an exclamation point.  This provoked me to inquire deeper into the idea of love as an action, not just a feeling.  Being committed to serving other people day after day with joyfulness, even in difficult circumstances.  Our loved ones know us so well and have a knack at pressing our buttons.  We may want to run and hide when that happens or to strike back, instead count to ten and see each offense as an opportunity to answer a call for love.  Usually when someone is treating you badly, it’s because they are unhappy about something.  We can patiently wait with a calm presence until they find their center again.  It’s called holding the space.  After all, there will be times when you may want to act out and wouldn’t it be nice if you set the precedent for loving kindness first?  Then when it’s your time, they will return the favor, that is, if they’re mature enough to know how.

I remember my ex mother-in-law saying that every couple hits a bump in the road at some point in their relationship, and that some people grow together from the experience and some grow apart.  She said that ultimately you don’t know the strength of your relationship until you pass that test.  When my marriage hit that bump we didn’t have what it took to stay together.  My current partner and I have hit a few bumps and we keep growing closer from each trial and tribulation we face together.

No matter what happens in life, be it divorce or some other rift in our close relationships…we always have a choice to continue to love others.  And just because you may not be speaking with loved ones doesn’t mean you stop loving them.  I keep everyone in my heart and pray unendingly for their health, happiness and peace.  That is the true definition of unconditional love, when it can be given freely regardless of the situation.  Wanting the best for everyone.  Sometimes the most loving act we can do for another is to set them free and wish them well.  Many relationships have expiration dates and if we’re honest with ourselves we know when it’s time to move on.

We are constantly getting the opportunity to test our ability to love.  A Course In Miracles says that there are only two emotions, love and fear, and that you cannot experience them at the same time.  If we are thinking any thoughts that are pulling us from the love energy, it means we are allowing ourselves to reside in fear energy.  God is never separate from us, we only think He is because we aren’t allowing ourselves to feel His presence.  The same with love, it waits patiently for us to return to our hearts instead of in our heads which tells us a zillion reasons not to love.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”  ~Rumi

 

The other day I became disappointed with my beloved when he shaved off his beard.  We hold love back when we place conditions on it.  How many of us do this with our lists of what we want our partner to look and act like.  I have a few guy friends who are single and wish they were in a relationship.  However, when I ask them what they’re looking for they are very specific with physical traits, like she has to be thin and pretty.

 

We must love deeply like a poet and seek it like a thirsty person seeks water.  See each person through the eyes of God and recognize their inner beauty.  Love like a mother holding her newborn baby, seeing the miracle of life in all it’s splendor.

 

How can we be more loving?  We can start by saying I love you to our family and friends, never leave without giving a hug and wishing each person many blessings.  Choose to resolve our differences with acceptance, offer to lend a hand to those in need, say thank you, cuddle more, be courteous and respectful, forgive easily, say I’m sorry, be encouraging and supportive.  This can be a lifelong process.  Keep finding more ways to love.

 

“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.”  Like John Lennon promoted back in the 60’s, make love, not war.  If we all behaved like newlyweds, life would be beautiful and people would be happy.  Love heals all and is the answer to all our problems.  It really is that simple.  Just love.

 

 

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call (207) 491-2313 or email sitajidevi@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.

 

 

 

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“Take the world as it is, not as it ought to be.”  ~ a German Proverb

Life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned.  I heard this joke once.  Do you want to make God laugh?  Tell Him your plans!

When I was a child I wanted to be a ballerina and a veterinarian.  As I grew older I decided I wanted to be an artist and own my own gallery and travel the world.  Instead I forgot all this and happily became a wife and mother in my twenties.  I fully bought into the American Dream scenario and felt very fulfilled having a house, husband, children and the occasional vacation.  However this fairy tale life was short lived and in my early thirties I became a young divorcee and began shuttling my kids back and forth to their two homes and faced the stress of being a single mother.

Dale Carnegie said, if life gives you lemons, make lemonade.  That’s exactly what I did.  Having free time on my hands every other weekend, I decided to enrich my soul and started taking art classes and joining a meditation group.  I began to rediscover myself independent of family life and interestingly returned to doing many of the things I enjoyed as a child like traveling, dancing and spiritual studies.

I also successfully learned how to share my children with people I didn’t know.  They would come home and talk all about their new adventures in New York City.  I had to let go of my fears that they would come into harm’s way because I wasn’t there to ensure their safety every minute of the day.  (They were under 5 when this started.)  The key phrase here is I had to let go.  I surrendered the situation to God and asked the angels to watch over them.  If I didn’t I would have suffered tremendously thinking about them running into traffic or getting kidnapped.  Next, I had to release the desire of being their only mommy–they got a step-mom shortly after the divorce.

Ultimately, I had to stop needing to be their mother all together due to differing religious and sociological viewpoints.  We have been estranged for over a year now.  Certainly not part of my original plan when I got married and decided to have children.  Fate can be cruel.  But we choose to have experiences in order to grow our soul.  Karma has to be repaid eventually.

Therefore it is essential to be adaptable.  Which is defined as the ability to adjust to new conditions and circumstances.  Change is constant in this world.  What are you holding onto?  If you’re suffering in any way, it would be due to some resistance to the inevitable flux of your surroundings.  The Universe will give us many opportunities to release our rigidity.  Like the trees in the forest, if they can’t bend when a strong wind comes, they will break.  I for one don’t want to be broken in half, so I learned to adjust.  What’s the alternative, to become jaded, bitter and cynical or lose your mind completely and go insane?  No thank you.  I’ll keep a positive attitude and hope for the best.

What happens to a person is characteristic of him.  He presents a pattern and all the pieces fit.  One by one, as his life proceeds, they fall into place according to some preordained design.  ~Carl Jung

When we can rise above our situation and look at it from a bird’s eye perspective then we are able to see the bigger picture.  Once we know that there is a divine reason for everything that happens here on earth, then we can relax and accept the outcome.

After I had my third child, I heard a voice say:  It is done.  I thought it meant my marriage which believe me was disconcerting enough at the time but I accepted it and was grateful for the heads up from my Higher Self.  It turned out to be more-my marital home and the children too.  The house went easily enough, but the kids were a harder pill to swallow.  It took me 5-10 years to accept that one fully.

More and more people are being asked by something greater than themselves to make the changes in life that are necessary for their highest good and along those lines hefty sacrifices are being made, like giving up our comfortable roles and identities that we have for so long grown accustomed to.  If we are to evolve to a higher consciousness in these remaining months then radical transformation may be necessary.

Just like if you’re about to submerge into the cold waters in Maine.  At first it feels impossible to even keep your feet in for any length of time.  Then you get really hot in the summer so you jump in, swim around and after a while you acclimatize to the coldness and really enjoy it.  If we’re open to all experiences in life then you won’t need it to be anything but what it is, and you’ll find a way to enjoy it.  It’s called going with the flow.

I guess the moral of this story is accept your destiny and find a way to keep on living a fulfilling and joyful existence.  Remain loving but detached and trust the process of your life.

Sitaji Devi is a Professional Astrologer and Psychic Medium in Farmington, Maine offering “life coaching” Readings.  Her website is www.Sitaji.com.  Call (207) 491-2313 or email sitajidevi@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.

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